23 years together and counting. ❤️ John Gottman is a clinical psychologist who can supposedly predict with 90% accuracy which couples will end in divorce. He says it is the presence of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling - what he calls the Four Horsemen - that are markers of failing relationships. They should be replaced instead with healthy communication patterns like using “I” statements, showing appreciation and taking responsibility. While Kev and I have elements of the Fou

The Four Horsemen of divorce #Gottman | Naomi Ruiz Deval