Lauren LaRusso, LPC, LMHC on Instagram: "If we don’t want to be an affair, then we need to continue to return to that truth by disengaging in the affair, upholding boundaries of our own, and resisting hooks. In my practice one of the biggest patterns I see are distressed affair partners who are using words to express their unwillingness to be an affair, but behaviorally the actions don’t match the words. If our words and our behaviors aren’t consistent, how do we expect another’s to be? We have